Here’s What It Means to Be Vers, Top, or Bottom

Psychotherapist and sex therapist Ty David Lerman, says a crucial first step in figuring out what labels, if any, are right for you is cultivating a willingness to learn about yourself: “Get curious about your fantasies, your literal dreams, and what you’re attracted to.”

“So much of my human sexuality education focuses simply on how the body works, which [is where] the vast majority of American education fails us,” says Ty David Lerman, a psychotherapist and certified sex therapist.

“Some polyamorous couples have adopted the Celtic practice of handfasting, which allows many hands to be bound together to signify the binding of several lives, as a symbolic commitment ceremony.”

Podcast with Leslie Chatman on the impact of Harvey and mental health concerns in the coming months.

We all need it, we all think about it, we just don’t always make it a priority. Self-care is vital to being a happy/healthy adult and many of us seek out external factors to help deal with stress. I propose a slightly different way of going about taking care of ourselves - me first!

There are many ways we get “stuck” in a rut, finding ourselves immobile; knowing what we “should” do, but not being able to actually take the steps to make it happen. Being able to turn that fear into something that actually motivates us to take action is a simple three-step process.